Some Toxic Love Questions You Shouldn't Answer
Geplaatst op 13-02-2025
Categorie: Lifestyle
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How long do your romantic relationships usually last?
Anything other than 12+ months is a bad answer. 0-6 months makes you a liability.
Say you’ve started seeing someone you really like. As far as you’re concerned, how long will it take before you have sex?
By answering this, you’re implying that you expect sex during that time frame. Even if you say 3-5 dates, you could still end up being judged negatively.
Would you consider sleeping with someone on the first date?
Say Yes and you’re a slut. Say No and you’re lying or look like too much work.
If one of your potential matches was overweight, would that be a dealbreaker?
Avoid. Say Yes and you’ll look shallow or you’ll end up scaring off people who fear they might fall into the “overweight” category but actually don’t. Everybody has their own definition for these words.
How do you think your sex drive compares to what is typical for other people of your age and gender?
As it tends to be with looks, everybody has a distorted perception of themselves. Say you’re insatiable or have a very high sex drive and it will be held against you. Say average or low and people might think you aren’t very sexual.
Have you ever had sex with a person within the first hour of meeting them?
The only right answer to this is No.
Is there a such thing as having had too many sex partners?
Avoid. Once you open this door it’s fair game for conversation.
Have you ever had a true one-night stand? (You met someone, had sex that night, and never contacted each other again.)
Only correct answer here is No.
Would you need to know the sexual history, beyond 6 months back, of someone you dated?
No is the only appropriate answer.
Would you honestly answer any question concerning your sexual history that a partner might ask?
See above.
A general rule of thumb I think people should follow is to not go overboard with these questions. Answer maybe 100 or so tops. Avoid responding to too many sex, religion and politics questions. A handful of each are fine. But too many might make you look like an extremist of some kind. When I come across someone’s profile and they’ve answered hundreds and hundreds of questions, I wonder three things: how long have they been on this site, how much time do they have on their hands and why are they being so revealing?
I’ve said many times that I think these questions are a great way to gain insight in to someone. Not just by how someone answers these questions, but by how many of these questions they choose to answer. Someone who responds to 5+ pages of sex questions is someone I avoid. Same goes for religion and politics. Fine, you’re an atheist. That’s okay by me. But if you feel compelled to answer 5+ questions about how foolish you think religion is, then not only are you clearly not a match for me, but you’re also intolerant of other people’s beliefs. Same goes for politics. It’s rare that you meet someone that will agree with you on every single issue. These people want carbon copies of themselves because they’re not comfortable being outside of their self-assigned comfort zones.
I think people really underestimate the importance of mystery in the early stages of dating. Frankly, I don’t want to know all that much about you upfront.I want to get to know you free of any pre-conceived ideas or opinions I’ve formed by reading through your questions. If you’re nuts, I’ll figure it out soon enough. 3 dates, to me, is not a waste of my time. If you’re just looking to get laid, that too I’ll discern pretty quickly. I’ll either sleep with you or I won’t.
I know many people need to have answers. Those people, in my opinion, are usually very difficult to deal with and almost always dissatisfied in one way or another. That’s why, whenever someone asks me one of those questions we discussed the other day, I typically pull back.
Someone who feels the need to paint a disclaimer on every situation or date is a buzzkill.